On this journey of life we have the chance to make as many connections with many different kinds of people. Some become aquaintances, friends, really good friends and even some become your family.
That is why I am in the Marketing field. I consider myself ok in this network field of not-so-green pastures. I am ok here because let downs are easy to come by and successes are challenges worth fighting for.
I make it a habit to compliment 3 people a day, talk to at least one stranger at each airport I travel through and hear their story and ask how the cashier's day is going at the grocery store.
The journey is not an easy one, so why not make it a pleasant one along the way while I can?
I am the Stefanie that loves getting friends together from all different walks of life in hopes that my friends will become friends. It usually works and people clash well. I like to get along, I am not into jealousy or fighting. In the pastures of friends, I like to keep it green as often as I can. I put in extreme efforts and fight for them and let them know how valuable they are and that I cherish them and their opinions.
What is disappointing is when they let you down and dont make the same efforts you do. I understand that not everyone is like me. We are all different and are giving in our own unique way. When you make a nice gesture or go out of your way to do something, it is nice to receive a response. When there isn't one, you start to question things...and learn new things to gain new perspective. It does not take much effort to put in effort if you are willing to. Just; are you willing to?
This I have come to learn: My pasture of friends can vary and there can be many! Just there are fences with healthy boundaries. Some lie in friends and some lie in aquaintances. There are your tell everything to friend to I only socialize in public with you friend. The long time friend who you see every few years and feel like it was yesterday that you saw them and haven't missed a day friend. (Gotta love those!) Oh! And I can't forget to add the I just ran into you and act like they have been your best friend forever and talk crap behind your back friends too! Although I may be disappointed when a feel real friend turns into an aquaintance, I always remember that life is short. That is when I ask myself who is worth investing my time in? People I value and love are...but if it isn't being returned then its time to live and let live.
Thursday, August 2, 2012
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Worst Critic Award goes to...Me!
We are in fact our own worst critics.
As I pinch my waist and tell myself, "If this wasn't here, I would look so much better."
We all do it. We complain about our bodies and wanting it to be different.
I recently tried the perscription HCG diet for 30 days and droppped 17 pounds and still find myself saying the same thing. Why? I mean, I workout as much as possible! I strength train in the mornings then in the evening I run a few miles...and yet I am still pinching myself here and there. Who am I trying to change for?
Answer: Myself. Ultimately.
There is a healthy boundary to be your own worst critic. And then occasionally you get those fit people who criticize and pinch themselves explaining that are so "oh my!" Fat. Then you are left feeling uncomfortably awkward. No response can be said except a few words of encouragement because you disagree...
although in your own mind you think "What the hell are they talking about, they are already skinny and beautiful...why are they complaining to me?...I have way more to lose than they even do!" Comparisons are easy to make, right?
Since the HCG, I have found more motivation to make healthier decisions and do my best to abide by the parental rule of eating "my veggies."
I have always been a confident person, and in the last year or so I found myself staying focused on everything else around me that I kind of forgot about me. HCG was introduced to me and it was a real challenge of committment. I told myself I could do it every morning and when I saw the scale slowly drop, I became more excited to stay motivated.
I used to be Vegan and although it was a rewarding experience, I never felt strong within. I looked good and was in a size 6 at one point but even then I was still pinching my "fat!"
So, when are we ever going to feel good enough about ourselves?
My conclusion is this:
The fact is that we will always be our own worst critics. No matter skinny or fat we are. Confidence will over-ride those negative thoughts and we can continue to try and be the best we can be everyday. Never give up and always be willing to take in new perspectives to gain growth. We will continue to share those words of encouragement to our fellow doubters...because more than likely we will need to hear them at some point ourselves as well. As long as you are feeling good and setting goals for yourself and your heart is full of joy and happiness....that is all that matters. What it comes down to is remembering to be thankful for everything we are blessed with.
As I pinch my waist and tell myself, "If this wasn't here, I would look so much better."
We all do it. We complain about our bodies and wanting it to be different.
I recently tried the perscription HCG diet for 30 days and droppped 17 pounds and still find myself saying the same thing. Why? I mean, I workout as much as possible! I strength train in the mornings then in the evening I run a few miles...and yet I am still pinching myself here and there. Who am I trying to change for?
Answer: Myself. Ultimately.
There is a healthy boundary to be your own worst critic. And then occasionally you get those fit people who criticize and pinch themselves explaining that are so "oh my!" Fat. Then you are left feeling uncomfortably awkward. No response can be said except a few words of encouragement because you disagree...
although in your own mind you think "What the hell are they talking about, they are already skinny and beautiful...why are they complaining to me?...I have way more to lose than they even do!" Comparisons are easy to make, right?
Since the HCG, I have found more motivation to make healthier decisions and do my best to abide by the parental rule of eating "my veggies."
I have always been a confident person, and in the last year or so I found myself staying focused on everything else around me that I kind of forgot about me. HCG was introduced to me and it was a real challenge of committment. I told myself I could do it every morning and when I saw the scale slowly drop, I became more excited to stay motivated.
I used to be Vegan and although it was a rewarding experience, I never felt strong within. I looked good and was in a size 6 at one point but even then I was still pinching my "fat!"
So, when are we ever going to feel good enough about ourselves?
My conclusion is this:
The fact is that we will always be our own worst critics. No matter skinny or fat we are. Confidence will over-ride those negative thoughts and we can continue to try and be the best we can be everyday. Never give up and always be willing to take in new perspectives to gain growth. We will continue to share those words of encouragement to our fellow doubters...because more than likely we will need to hear them at some point ourselves as well. As long as you are feeling good and setting goals for yourself and your heart is full of joy and happiness....that is all that matters. What it comes down to is remembering to be thankful for everything we are blessed with.
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